Writer's Block: Mind blitz
aldimai
Is there anyone you would permanently erase from your life and memory? If so, who and why?

Not really. Everyone that comes into your life is there for some purpose or reason -good,bad or otherwise. It's a life experience one way or the other. I haven't met anyone Satanic. But even Satan is there for a reason. You can learn some lesson, no matter how displeasing.

Writer's Block: Fight or flight
aldimai
Have you ever struck someone in a fit of anger or self-defense? If so, did you live to regret it?

Well yes. but it was on a football field. i was playing on  a  team. The play was blown dead by the ref's whistle.  This opposing players  came running across at me  at  hit me  in the head, even though the play was over. I saw RED. Unsportsman like conduct does not set well with me. I charged at him in a rage and knocked him out.  Yes, i  did regret it afterwards, I said to mysef, the guy really deserved  it. It was an uncalled for move. He never again tried that again.


Writer's Block: Acquired taste
aldimai
What is your favorite weird food combination? Have your friends ever tried it or do you only eat it in private?

LIVER WITH SOME FAVRE BEANS AND A FINE CHIANTI!!! SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Writer's Block: Family Is…
aldimai
What does family mean to you?

In a word--everything or it should to everyone. A few descriptions--Love, Roots,Support System,an environment to decompress, Good memories, Bad memories, Education,Solidarity, Morals Work ethic  ---Is that enough?

Writer's Block: Money in the Bank
aldimai
How do you keep your finances on track? Are there any online tools you use to keep track of what you’re spending and where? When was the last time you were caught off guard (pleasantly or not-so-much) when you checked your bank account balance?

If your on top of your finances, there should be no surprises. In this day and age of "watching the buck", use all the tools dedicated to that end. There's no reason to be surprised. Keep track of bank statements, checks issued, net surplus or deficits, income, budgets-- computer aids or not. Stay on top of  your BUSINESS--THE BUSINESS OF SURVIVAL!!!!!

THE HUMAN CONDITION
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THE TRAILER BUSINESS.

 Once I was at a convention in L.A.  for my transportation company and they informed me all the top leaders of the trailer industry would be there. It was a huge banquet room where people would congregate and discuss new developments in the long haul business. As I mingled and talked to various people, I noticed  that the interaction and conversations became a little weird. I assumed that these people were the top in the field and would demonstrate a degree of intelligence and acumen. Well, I was wrong.  All they demonstrated  was a  ample amount of stupidity over the course of the evening. It wasn’t  simply  stupidity ,but out and out backwardness. It didn’t add up or make sense. How could these people be the leaders in their field with statements like, “ TACO BELL? AIN’T THAT THERE THAT NEW MEXICAN PHONE COMPANY  OVER THERE IN BLACKROCK?”” YEP, BELIEVE SO”, answered the other. I said to myself, let me mingle further to see if it gets better. It didn’t  because the next conversation I overhead went something like this: “Yeh,  grandpa died and left his entire inheritance to his widow. But damn it, she can’t touch it until she’s fourteen.” Another overheard pearl of wisdom:” yep, Zeke, education is a great thing. Don’t mind tellin you that sixth grade was the best  5 years of my life.Me and mom were in the same Home Room together  or “You know, Clem, I was ridin down interstate 95 and a state trooper stop me for going too slow. He said,Let me have your I.D”. my I.D?.,I  said, Bout what? Another gem, “You know Jeb, I suffered a big loss in the market bout 3 years ago. Yeh, it was terrible. A dang garbage truck hit my fruit stand and on top of that I got a fine for literin the road with peach pits.

I couldn’t take anymore of this, so I headed for the door when a man approached me and said, ”Where’s  the  Dom  Perignon?  I said,” Over by the bar.”” He said, Gees, I thought  they  arrested that big time Mafia boss.” When I read the sign outside the banquet room ,which was initially overlooked, I understood why I was in the wrong place. It read, “ JETHRO SUGGENS  FAMILY TRAILER CAMP REUNION”.

 

 


Writer's Block: Kids or child-free?
aldimai
Whether you've chosen to have children or live child-free, how and when did you (or will you) reach this decision? If you're in a relationship, did you (or will you) decide separately or together?

That all depends on you and your mate as a joint decision. That is a big decision and can only be made ahead of time with a lot of discussion between you and your girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband. Both have to be on the  same page as far as life goals.I  suppose, each of us has a preconceived notion even before we meet someone. All that should be spelled out before hand. NO SURPRISES!!!!

THE HUMAN CONDITION
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GENDER DOUBLE STANDARD

AN OBSERVATION

Double  standards  exist  pervasively throughout  our society. There is the age double standard; the race double standard and we have always had the gender double standard  as early as the  arrival of man on the scene.  In  current  society, the  gender double standard  is further delineated in the fields of employment, human capabilities, inner  and moral strength and social  interactions. One area that is most  striking  is the double standard involving  social interactions. Men and women in this field are on equal footing   with respect to their interactions with members of the opposite sex. I make a point of it because it elicits paranoid behavior in both sexes. It is understandable, but quite perplexing when it comes down to the basic logic of it all. Let me explain. 

Both sexes have relationships with members of their gender. That is, men have men friends and women have women friends.  Further assume these men and women have  ties, be it marital or relationships i.e. girlfriends, boyfriends. When the friendships  involve  a crossing of genders, that is a man has a friend who happens to be a female and a women who has a friend  who happens to be a male, a problem arises  for a rather obvious reason.  The connotation or shall I say the suspicion of an interaction deemed inappropriate arises. It becomes deemed an inappropriate interaction simply based on gender. Why?

The suspicion is predicated on an automatic mistrust and therefore, a kind of misconduct. It is based on assumptions, however false, about the participants in the relationship. From the beginning , if we are male or female the given in this scenario is inappropriate behavior without  even looking at the reality or intention. Again, why?   That is the double standard.  Each gender holds  the other to a standard, perhaps  in no small way that is biased  and unfair. Mistrust is a given. “I’ll be home later, honey. I’m having a few drinks with Janet” Bob says to his wife, has an infinitely more of a suspicious impact than, “I’ll be home later, honey” I’m having a few drinks with Mike”. Both Janet and Mike may very well be friends of Bob’s family. Nevertheless, it doesn’t eradicate the presence of suspicion between Janet and Bob or even Bob’s wife with a male friend. The ‘double’ double  standard will always be the rule

One might ask the question, Is it appropriate for a man or woman who is spoken for by another to have a friendly drink or date with a member of the opposite sex in the first place? Staunch advocates of the sanctity of the marital  bond or even exclusive  relationships might flatly answer,  No. Liberal minded  and free spirited thinkers  might give  a more  ‘Swingers’ response, “What’s the problem with that? . Those sitting on the fence may deem it a ‘maybe’ or ‘it depends’ with a pending qualified answer .No matter what the particular circumstance, this standard seems to be imbedded into the fabric of societal relationships

It is unlike other classes of gender double standards  such as employment which injects biases in salary and  capabilities. An Inner emotional strength double standard to handle tasks that require a certain moral  toughness. It is unique because the double standard of which I speak is not biased between the genders, one over the other. It is assigned to men and women equally. Men must deal with this basic assumption of mistrust as do women. So what is the resolution to all this? A relationship check-up assessing intentions and inner trust? Probably, this is the correct path to dispelling mistrust  Nevertheless  It seems no matter how  introspective one becomes about his or her relationships,  there looms the possibility of a misdeed or  inappropriate behavior with this type of standard rooted in our thinking. It’s part of the human condition and perhaps, never will evolve to a higher state. It is part of the human condition.

 


Writer's Block: It’s the Little Things…
aldimai
Do you keep track of how much money you spend on non-essential luxuries, like gourmet coffee and snacks? Are there certain little indulgences you cannot live without no matter how tight your budget?

MORE OR LESS. IF THINGS BECOME THAT TIGHT WITH MONEY, I WILL  DO WITHOUT FOR LUXURIES. THERE IS NOTHING I CAN'T DO WITHOUT IF I HAD TO. AFTER THE BASICS ARE PAID FOR, IF THERE IS A SURPLUS, SURE I CAN SPLURGE WITH THE BEST OF THEM.

THE HUMAN CONDITION
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IN A PICKLE

ONE OF THE MANY BUSINESS VENTURES THAT MY FATHER AND UNCLE STARTED WAS A DRY CLEANING SERVICE LOCATED IN A HEAVILY POPULATED JEWISH COMMUNITY. IT WAS A RATHER TEDIOUS BUSINESS WITH A SIX DAY WORK WEEK, LONG HOURS AND LITTLE TIME FOR LEVITY. THAT ALL CHANGED ONE DAY WHEN TWO HASIDIC JEWS WALKED IN WITH THEIR STATELY BLACK HATS AND BOUNCING SPRING CURLS. ONE OF THE THEM APPROACHED THE COUNTER WITH A PILE OF BLACK SUITES, SET IT DOWN AND ASKED MY FATHER WHEN HE COULD PICK THEM UP. THE OTHER JUST STOOD WHERE HE WAS, WITH HIS RIGHT HAND IN HIS POCKET, AND HIS EYES TRANSFIXED UPON THE MOUND OF CLOTHES BEFORE HIM. BEFORE MY FATHER COULD CONSUMATE THE ORDER, THE GENTLEMAN STANDING AWAY FROM THE COUNTER PULLED  OUT A PICKLE FROM HIS RIGHT POCKET AN PROCEEDED TO UNABASHEDLY EAT IT AS YOU WOULD A PIECE OF CANDY. THE SOUNDS OF MUNCHING AND CRUNCHING RESOUNDING THROUGHOUT THE STORE BROUGHT A HALT TO MY FATHERS WORDS AND A CONTORTED EXPRESSION FROM A STIFLED LAUGH.

 THE FINAL COUP D’ ETAT IN THIS SCENARIO OCCURRED WHEN THE GENTLEMAN DEALING WITH MY FATHER ALSO BEGAN EATING A PICKLE OFFERED BY THE OTHER. “HERE SAUL, TAKE, TAKE ,” SAID  THE MUNCHER. WITH THAT, GOOD OLD DAD’S FACIAL COMPOSURE WOULD NO LONGER REMAIN STEADFAST AMID THE STEREO CRUNCHING JEWS. HE FINALLY RAN TO THE BACK ROOM IN A FIT OF HYSTERICAL LAUGHTER WHERE MY UNCLE WAS WORKING.  BECAUSE OF HIS FRENZIED STATE, HE COULD NOT EVEN SPEAK, BUT ONLY MOTIONED WITH ONE FINGER TO GO OUT TO THE FRONT DESK. SO HE DID AND FOUND THE TWO JEWISH GENTS STILL MUNCHING AWAY ON THEIR RESPECTIVE PICKLES. NO SOONER DID HE REACH THEM, DID THE SAME OVERPOWERING HYSTERIA FORCE HIM TO RUN BACK TO HIS ALMOST COMATOSE BROTHER. WHAT A SCENE! THE TWO OWNERS, UNCONTROLABLY LAUGHING IN THE BACK AND THEIR TWO UNATTENDED CUSTOMERS EATING PICKLES IN THE FRONT.

FINALLY, AFTER THE LAUGHTER SUBSIDED, THEIR LITTLE OLD JEWISH TAYLOR, MOISHA, WAS SENT OUT TO GREET HIS LANDSMEN. BY NOW, THEY FINISHED THEIR KOSHER DELIGHTS AND ONLY BLANK STARES REMAINED. THEIR ORDER WAS COMPLETED WITHOUT SO MUCH AS A WIMPER. MOISHA COULDN’T UNDERSTAND WHAT THE FUSS WAS ABOUT.   I GUESS HE UNDERSTOOD ABOUT PUBLIC PICKLE EATING.

 


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